7 Things You Should Learn from Your Failed Relationship

When
you experience a relationship break-up, you usually begin to analyze
your past and lose the faith in true love. The feelings of sorrow make
you waste your time looking for a reason why he broke up with you. You’d
better try to find a lesson in the pain of your past relationship. You
should know that relationships give you the chance to grow spiritually
and get new and precious experiences. Those who think that they’ve
wasted time with the wrong person are not right, because relationships
also offer you opportunities to understand your past, your fears, your
essence and what the meaning of the true love is. Love is not a simple
thing. You need some time to learn how to love and value the
relationship with your beloved. I hope this article will help you focus
on your past and find the answers to all annoying questions that make
you feel worried.
1. Everyone needs free space
Many
people think that a true love means that they should spend 24 hours a
day together with the person they love. Such schedule will make you lose
your identity in a quite short period of time. Remember, everyone needs
some free time and space to satisfy their personal needs and do things
that make them feel alive. By all means, don’t let your identity die,
because it will be difficult to bounce back.
2. The lust period is temporary
This
wonderful period usually makes you fly on the wings of love. When you
are extremely happy, you spend hours dressing to impress your partner
and talking about love till the dawn. Unfortunately, the period of
butterflies in the stomach ends fast and amorousness turns into a real
and adequate love. Love is the period when you are ready to share both
good and bad with the person you love. Love really grows when you have
no fear to lose and when you absolutely accept all pros and cons of your
significant other.
3. Other people don’t belong to you
Nowadays
we live in a democratic world where people are free and have equal
rights and responsibilities. Moreover, we are free to express ourselves
and lead an independent life. No matter how long you’ve been together,
you should understand that the person you love isn’t your property.
People who really love each other are committed to this beautiful
feeling and treat each other with respect. Your love is your muse but
not your possession. You cannot control the behavior and every step of
your partner, because it will only break trust in your relationship. The
only adequate thing you can do is to trust him and try to create common
rules of commitment both of you should stick to.
4. Complete yourself
I
do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy
and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never
complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for
validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to
cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to
develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It
requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.
5. Don’t even try to change your partner
You
can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to
change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the
right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to
change, they’ll make a shift. A human psyche has the capacity to ignore
things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may
achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits
again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should
shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s
better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.
6. Get rid of your inner conflicts
Your
attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of
your fears and anxiety which reign in your sub consciousness. If you
want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your
inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible
things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be
able to share your love with somebody else.
7. Learn how to let go gracefully
It
seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a
considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy
relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and
energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for
happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the
past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and
cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the
next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you
develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.
Relationships
are an important part of your personal development. Both happy and
unhappy relationships help you grow and become an all-rounded person.
You should be strong enough to overcome the pain and other challenges,
if you want to be happy. Have you ever had failed relationships? What
lessons did you learn from them? Share your experiences.
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